Health Journey: Pros (and Con?)

I have been on this journey for just over 3 months now and along with the weight I have lost, I have noticed a lot of other chages, so thought it would be fun to categorise them into ‘Pros and Cons (if at all)’.

Pros- the positive changes that keep me going

1. My skin is glowing! My workmates keep telling me my skin is glowing and “what product are you using” or “ooh girl you must be in love!” . Anyone who knows me well knows I’m the laziest person when it comes to facial products and routines (my mum has tried and failed to get me to ‘take better care of your skin, you are a woman’.) As for the being in love part,  I am very much in love….but my skin problems started around the time we met lol! My conclusion; clean eating is what has done it.


Before vs. Aftet

2. I look younger. Several people after seeing the photo below have commented on how young I look and one person went as far as saying I look 16!


3. I have a waist…well one you can define. Refer to above photo.

4. Boob shrinkage. If you have lived most of your life with a heavy set of these, you know what I mean.

5. Shopping has become more fun. I have been able to walk into shops and try things on with more confidence, not worrying about the stare coming from the fitting room attendant as if she’s saying “girl, who are you kidding? ‘

6. Random people at the most random of times noticing the changes my body has gone through. This morning I was beating myself up about not working hard enough…and then I hear a knock on my door and an old family friend is outside and exclaims at how I’m looking now. God knew i needed a pick-me-up.

7. The jealous stares!  I don’t know what it is about females and I’m not sure if this is just a Zambian thing but women normally give each other these funny looks when they see someone looking good and I have been getting those! Hehehehehe You know you only get haters when you are doing something right (ask Jesus)

8. I’m not as moody. I have a lot to be happy about. 😀


Happy Me

9. Being an inspiration to others. Knowing that my journey is helping someone else is humbling and  you will never know how far that text message, email, Facebook comment goes in keeping me going.

Cons- are there any?
Not that I can think of. Things such as clothes becoming loose and having to take my dresses to the tailor to be taken in every so often…well I can live with that!

CurvyFitGirl (yeah that’s me..)

Health Journey: What’s Your Motivation?

I have been thinking a lot about why I decided to go on this journey.  What makes this different from all the other times I started only to be back to square one, only this time weighing more than I did to begin with?  I mean,  I have lost 18 kilos before, but gained it all back with another 2 on top just for measure- who does that? I did. Why?

I realise now that my motivation was all wrong. Back then I did it because I wanted to look good for other people to notice. Oh and notice they did….but once the compliments started coming and I started receiving the attention I thought I needed  to build my self-esteem. ..I thought I had made it. My theme song could easily have been that popular song from the movie “Maid in Manhattan” (yes I know from the top of my head where the song comes from because I did plan a “coming out” party *hides face*). So the song went something like this I’m coming out, I want the world to know, got to let it show….there’s a new me coming out…’ (just Google’d it, apparently it was done by Diana Ross).

I digress…what I realised is that though I was looking great, I hadn’t fixed the inside. For me this went deeper than just low self-esteem…my life had no meaning,  no purpose…but this is not my testimony ( I really should get on to that project)

So here I am again, on another journey. This time though, I am not doing it for anyone else but me. Its not only about looking good, its also about feeling great inside and out, being healthy, being whole and discovering a better me. I know my inside is fixed because ‘He that is in me is greater than he that is in the world’ (1John 4:4).

It’s not been easy and I have slipped (the last two weeks have been bad), but as with all of lifes challenges,  I have gotten back up and dusted myself off.  It is so easy to blame others for your failure, but at the end of the day I am accountable to me. I want this for me.

Results: 8 weeks in and I have lost 7.1kgs (11.1kgs from my heaviest weight)

Just realised I haven’t talked about my actual motivations….to be continued….

Team Curvy and Fit

Friendship, The Christian Way

I have always considered myself a ‘good friend’ because though not very good at keeping in touch, I always make time out when a friend is in need (a friend in need, is a friend indeed).

Sometimes though, certain friendships seem to suck the life out of me (okay that is an exaggeration) but I am sure everyone once in their life has been in a friendship where you seem to be the one always on the giving side of things but when you are the one in need, that person is nowhere in sight.

Several people close to me have told me in the past that I am ‘too nice’ and I also remember my mum telling me once that friendships cannot be bought and that people will take my kindness as weakness and take advantage of me….but isn’t it “more blessed to give”?

So here I am in another ‘friendship bind’ that has me wondering, what is the meaning of friendship?  What does the bible say about friendship?

The basis of Christianity is love, afterall, it is because of God’s love that we can have eternal life (John 3:16). However, this is a two-way deal because the Word of God says “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son that we MAY have eternal life”; God has done His part by giving us His son, we now have to do our part and accept the son as our saviour = 2 way street.

In the same way i believe that friendship is a two-way street; “it is a state or quality of being friends or being friendly” (Merriam – Webster Dictionary), one simply cannot be in a friendship alone.

So then what are the qualities of being a good friend, the Christian way? 

Just as God gave us His son because of His love for us, I believe that the basis of friendship should be founded on love. There is no better definition of love than the one found in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 and i believe we should strive to build our friendships on these principles:
1. Love is patient. Be patient with your new friendship, give it time to grow and blossom. As you get to know each other, you will discover each others strengths and weaknesses

2. Love is kind. Be kind to your friends and be kind to one another. In every friendship you are bound to have differences, but be kind.

3. Love does not envy and it does not boast. It is not proud. The minute you start to envy what your friend has, you lose focus on being friends and the same goes for boasting and pride.

4. Love does not dishonour others. To dishonour means to bring shame upon someone-enough said.

5. Love is not self-seeking. This is a biggie. Why are you in that friendship? You should not be in it just to get something out it just as Phillipians 2:3 says, “do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit”. On the other hand, one should not give in order to be seen as a ‘good friend’, do not act to seek the praise of others -evaluate your reason for giving (mental note)

6. Love is not easily angered nor does it keep a record of wrongs. Oh boy. This I am guilty of I must confess. In itself this mission to discover what friendship the Christian way is started because I was angry at someone and had been keeping a record of all the times they had not been there for me.

7. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in truth. Your friendships will not find its happiness in things that are bad, but it will in the good things.

8. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres. Protect your friendship, trust your friendship, hope for the good and persevere through the rough times.
Now that I have the recipe of what makes a good friendship, what do I do about my ‘friendship bind’? Do I have my answers?

I think so.

Miz Mwenya ♥

Health Journey: Not Going Back (Week 6)

When you have been overweight for most of your life like I have, having to go to the doctors is usually at the bottom of your to-do list, well it has been for me.

I haven’t been feeling too well for the last week or so and have been putting off going to see a doctor,  but today I had no choice. At my clinic, the normal routine is to have your blood pressure,  temperature and yep, you guessed it, your weight measured before the doctor sees you. I always dread this part because there is usually some nurse who makes some funny comment when they see how much I weigh.

So here I am standing on this scale, bracing myself for the nurse’s comment and nothing…she writes down my current weight, flips back a couple of pages in my file and congratulates me for having lost 10kgs from my last visit!!

I never knew that my weight had gotten that bad (I never weighed myself before I started this journey and most overweight people do not because they are in denial) and now that I know what to my knowledge is my heaviest weight, I am so proud of myself and I can confidently say I AM NOT GOING BACK!

I am 10kgs lighter from my heaviest weight and 6.2kgs down from when I officially began this journey.


Brighter, healthier days ahead of me

I might have a long journey and a lot of hard work (and squats) ahead of me, but only God can create a universe in six days.


#teamcurvynfit ♥

Health Journey: Non Scale Victories

Sometimes we work hard, eat clean but the results on the scale are disappointing.  Take me for example, my week 5 weightloss was only 0.8kgs. Apart from the one week I had a gain, this has been my lowest result.

Initially I was frustrated about what the scale was telling me, but at the end of the day, it’s just a number. What my body is telling me and the transformation that is happening is more important.  So today I am celebrating my NSV’s- NON SCALE VICTORIES and so should you because you have put in the work.


My high waisted skirt that won't stay up 🙂


Yay me!


I like how my stomach is starting to have definition

“Victory, Vic-tory” *singing*

Love Me 🙂

Health Journey : 5 in 5

Here I am lying in bed and i realise that I haven’t done my weekly update. Obviously this week’s post will be short cos im knackered.

I have started noticing some changes in the way my clothes fit and I am so over the moon.  My favourite bra is slightly loose and soon will have to be replaced. As sad as it is to lose my favourite bra, if you are like me who was given an extra serving of boobage when our good Lord was handing them out, then you know how heavy and frustrating a big bust can be…so yes I am pleased with that.

Another thing I have noticed is that my size 20 jeans are more comfortable. They are not quite loose yet, but this is definitely a step in the right direction towards getting into my size 16 goal jeans.



In terms of weight lost on the scale this week, it hasn’t been a super good week with me missing ALL  of my aerobics classes (Monday I was stuck in traffic, Wednesday I got there on time only to find there was no class,  and Friday I worked late). This is why I am now looking at joining a gym. I am still a bit self-conscious about my body and fitness level which is probably why it’s taken me this long to get a gym membership (which I haven’t gotten yet). I don’t know about other people,  but I find it hard to work out on my own, so a gym with different workout classes would be perfect.

Anywho, back to results. …total weight lost in 5 weeks is 5kgs!  Yeah baby! *pumps fist*.

Changes in measurements are as follows (going to have to turn on the light to get the measurements from my diary- ps: its important to have a weight loss journal to track your progress)
Bust: 42.6inches (down by 0.2)
Waist: 38.5inches (down by 1.5)
Hips: 54.5inches (down by 0.7)

That’s it for this week but I will be posting more on some of the challenges I have faced or am facing and how I have overcomed (or succumbed) to them and how to get back on the saddle.

Stay Blessed and Beautiful.

Love Me 🙂