His and Hers Chitenge

To celebrate Zambia’s 49th year of Independence, my church this Sunday had an all round Zambian theme, from the Pastors, to the Ushers, to Hospitality and even Proclaim (our Praise and Worship team)  so boy was I excited! And why not? Any opportunity to rock an Afrochic Chitenge outfit is something worth smiling about but ad to that the opportunity to dress my future husband to be in a chitenge outfit, now that’s definitely worth a post.

I have been trying to get Matthew into a chitenge outfit for as long as I have been chitenge obsessed.  I have had several ties made for him, which he has never worn  (and has probably “misplaced”) but with him leading Praise and Worship on Sunday and having no choice but to lead by example, you best believe I took my opportunity and ran with it and got us matching outfits (corny I know….aaah the joys of being in love ♥♥♡♥♡)

Here’s our final look (nevermind his tortured look, I know he secretly loved it, its only cause it was hot and the material was extra waxxy…that’s my opinion and I’m sticking to it)

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Until next time my love hehehehehe 🙂

Love,
CurvyAfricanDiva and Partner

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Flaunt It! (Respectfully)

I like to portray myself as a confident woman…well most times I am, but like any woman, learning to love my body and the skin I am is something I have struggled with for most of my “20-something” years on this earth.

Despite losing quite a bit of weight and seeing some positive changes in my body, there are still some parts of my body, which if given a choice, I would hide under a potato sack. In fact, for most of my high school days, I did (well not a sack but under baggy clothes).

This “problem area” is my  bum a.k.a booty and my thighs. I have accepted that no amount of squats will change this, “I got it from my momma” , thanks to her South African genes.

So instead of always putting myself down about it, I decided to try another tactic and embrace it, flaunt it (in a respectful, tasteful way), afterall, I am fearfully and wonderfully made, I am not a mistake and neither are you, don’t you forget it.

Praise Him for who and how He created you.

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The 2nd shortest dress I have ever worn

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That South African booty

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Definitely the shortest dress I have worn in public

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Ps: your confidence is what makes (or breaks) your outfit, no matter what kind of body you have.

Love,
CurvyAFRICANdiva

Forgiveness

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I am strong.

I came across the above saying by Mahatma Gandhi yesterday and it’s been on my mind since.

I decided to do a post on forgiveness because I realised last night that I have been holding onto a lot of anger towards people, and its only hurting me. So this post is more for me, for MY healing.

Forgiveness is hard and goes against ones human nature to get justification from who has wronged us.  So to ensure this post doesnt turn out to be an act of ‘getting my own back, I will start off with the word of God; “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Colossians 3:13 (NIV) and use this as my foundation. 

Now, I am the sort of person who, when someone does something that I feel has wronged or hurt me, I tend to keep that feeling inside, letting it build, and like and overblown ballon, I burst. This storage of resentment turns to anger and when you hold anger, how can there be room for God’s love?

As Christians, whether we like it or not, we are ambassadors for Christ, Christ is the president and has appointed us as His proxy.  Our job description? LOVE. Now the devil on the other hand specialises in stealing, killing and destroying; taking that love and replacing it with resentment, anger, hurt, etc.

“But it’s not fair!” I have said this phrase many times in my life. Why should someone get away with doing something to me, treating me a certain way, get away with spreading lies about me or taking advantage of my kindness?

Well, I don’t actually know. All I know is that “If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them.” – Luke 6:29 (NIV). Let me point out, if someone slaps me, im for sure going to want to slap them back.

Why does Jesus tell us to turn the other cheek?  Well because “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them.” Luke 6: 32. We are ambassadors remember?  And God always rewards, He loves rewarding us.

So, this is me letting go of every thing, big and small. I forgive you and pray that you can forgive me to.

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I am strong.

I am strong, are you?

Love,
Me 🙂