Embracing Me , Naturally

Life ater ‘The Big Chop’ has had its ups and downs. Here’s a lil breakdown…

2 days after chopping my hair off with a pair of scissors, I asked  Mr Man (a.k.a myTonga Bull) to take me to the local barbershop to trim’ the ends and level it up.

What an experience! 

What was meant to be a trim turned out to be a haircut (massacre)…long story short,  I discovered that hair (or lack thereof) can invoke (yes invoke, cause that’s how deep it was) some deep rooted emotional skeletons…ones which in my case led me to tears and to the point of refusing to go to work the day after said ‘trimming’ ordeal. 

Anywhoo…I’ve since been educated on how to comb said massacre by the very loving before mentioned Mr Man, (who has had several years experience in that area, despite having developed a preference for what im told the experts call a brush cut), and though it hasnt exactly been smooth sailing, its been a good 2 months.

Insert time line of pictures here:

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Pre- massacre

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Liberated!

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Roar!

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Im still transitioning- emotionally.

Sometimes I love my hair and sometimes I hate it. It’s mine.

Love,
Nappy, Curvy (sometimes emotional) African DIVA

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The Big Chop

After last night’s mini anxiety attack, I couldn’t sleep (yes, over hair….don’t you roll your eyes at me! )

So I finally decided that in order to get some sleep and not end up failing to get up for church, I would just have to chop my hair…yep, ‘The Big Chop’. And so after midnight last night (or rather, early this morning) I did!

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I understand now why its called ‘The Big Chop’, because it really is a hard decision to make. Leaving behind the security of the image of yourself you have had for a long part of your life… for me, an image I’ve had since I was about 7 years old.  Its definitely not easy…it’s not surprising I even had a dream about it.

Whether my anxiety was warranted or not, as I write this I’m reminded of the scripture “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” -Philippians 4:6.

Now, I’m sure you are thinking that God didn’t mean anxiety over hair  but do you see the words ANYTHING and EVERYTHING in that scripture I’ve just quoted? Yes, I think even big chop anxiety qualifies.  What I mean is that, nothing is to big or too small for God…if it concerns you, he is interested. He wants to be who we turn to in our time of need, no matter how silly we think it is. So if my request is to still look feminine after chopping my hair, I present it to God and thank Him because He has already done it.

I encourage you to take even the silly things to God and see it change your attitude and mindset.

This is why, I know I rocked my new look, its all about your attitude baby! (im convinced that sentence needed a ‘baby’ to drive my point hehehe).

Phew! That’s a lot of words just to tell you I did it. A week before my birthday as I initially planned. And I LOVE it.

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Love,

Curvy African Nappy DIVA.

The BC (Big Chop)

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In March of this year, I decided to stop ‘relaxing’ my hair (using chemicals to straighten it). This means I have been transitioning (getting back to my natural hair without chopping it all off) for the last 8 months.

I told myself I would do the ‘BC’ on my birthday which is in exactly 1 week. I think I am having a bit of anxiety over it because last night I dreamt I had chopped my hair…though in my dream I was rocking a fabulous TWA (teeny weeny afro).

Part of why im anxious is because I’m scared I won’t look feminine (I chopped my hair once before in high school and I begged my mum not to make me go back to school that term (I thought I looked too much like my dad…I should try unearth some photos from that era). 
The second major reason is because I’m planning on getting married soon (in less than 9 but more than 4 months…lol gotta keep you guessing) and friends and family have been discouraging me from doing it.

So here I am, having just taken out my weave and trimmed off the ends, holding my scissors, tempted to chop my hair now rather than wait a week. What difference will a week make?

Decisions,  decisions.

Love,

Curvy African Maybe Natural (by the end of the night) Diva.

My Weekend in Outfits

I have had myself a fun, activity – packed weekend and thought I’d tell you all about it going by the outfits I put together. I don’t consider myself a fashion guru but every girl likes to dress up right?

So here is my weekend in outfits….

Friday night: Friend’s Birthday Celebrations
Venue: Dolphin Restaurant (Northmead, Lusaka) for Dinner and Karaoke
Outfit: Glam – casual

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Blue jeans, cream lace top, nude pumps and a gray envelope clutch.

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My dinner date

Saturday Night: A Friend’s Wedding Reception
Venue: ZAF Chamba Valley
Outfit: Semi – formal
Ps: I did attend the Marriage Blessing, but was occupied with taking photos of the Bride and Groom

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Lady in Red: red dress, belt, cluth and black heels

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My date

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Earings!

Sunday Morning: Church
Outfit: Afrochic

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Short Hair. Bright, bold yellow hoop earrings

Sunday Afternoon: Out ‘N About
Outfit: Casual

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Peach t-shirt and dotted tube skirt with matching flats

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His and Hers Casuals

What a fun weekend, let’s do it again.

Stay Blessed and fabulous.

Love,

Me 🙂

The Hair Diaries : Marley Braids

My current hair experiment is the wanna be dreads, more commonly known as Marley Dreads.

For this experiment,  I did some ‘thorough’ research on what hair to use and where i could get it done. My research (mainly me hounding my female workmates) ‘found’ that I would need Marley Braids,  I got the Janet brand which can be found in most hair shops, and that the best place to get it done would be Northmead (Lusaka, Zambia).

I opted for a place called Peniahs Hair Stylist, located behind the Northmead market.

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Not your luxury salon but comfortable and clean

The braiding itself took about 3 and a half hours and boy did it hurt, I honestly recommend you carry some pain killers.

At the end of the braiding process, the hair is cut to your preferred length, sectioned off, braided and dipped in hot water to make curls like so…

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And the end result…

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Score out of ten: 5
Why? Looks good and will get you plenty of compliments but the pain was a little too much for me and you can forget about getting a good night’s sleep on the first night.

Love Me 🙂
Ps : Live life abundantly. John 10:10

The Hair Diaries: Crochet Braids with Marley

My next hair experiment was inspired by the following photo I came across on Pinterest, the Crochet braids with Marley:

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I had my hair done at Lillians salon at Friday’s Corner Mall along Alick Nkhata Road, Lusaka, Zambia (Africa).

Initially it was too puffy so she had to take out some tracks. I wasnt too pleased with the final look but eventually it grew on me..and the compliments helped.

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I think she trimmed them too short

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It didn’t last long, ony had it for slightly more than a week, though it probably would have lasted longer (like an extra week) had it not been for all the swimming I did over the weekend. I had fun though, no regrets.

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Got pushed in fully clothed

My score out of 10? 4. It looked good for a couple of days but lost major points because it had no staying power.

Onto the next one.

Love Me 🙂
Ps: Don’t forget, you are fearfully and wonderfully made.  Psalm 139 :14