Getting Married in Zambia | Step 4 | Get Me to the Church on Time!

It is is now 10 days to our 1st anniversary and i really, honestly can’t believe it has been a year already?!!. People say the first year (or couple of years) are the hardest because all the pretense  of dating and the excitement of planning a wedding have passed; its now just the two of you and there is no more pretending that you roll the toothpaste from the bottom when in fact you don’t.

Our first year was not easy, we laughed, we cried, we argued, we made up – nothing out of the ordinary (i think). It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it ( sorry, i couldn’t  resist that cliché).

As we celebrate our 1st year together, I’d  like to talk a walk down memory lane and wrap up my series on Getting Married in Zambia.

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The morning of the wedding day for the Bride and Groom in Zambia is filled with last minute to-do’s and phone calls (unless your bridesmaids confiscate your phone)- mostly because it is not yet common to hire a Wedding Planner or the Bride,  if they are anything like me think that only we can get things done PER-FEC-TLY

You are the first one to wake up,  and you make sure you have your bath first before waking up the entire household. Of course you are coming down with the flu after spending the night before decorating the church with your fiance (you are an event planner and decorator after all). So lemon and honey tea, Strepsils and a dry piece of bread is sufficient for your breakfast.

You are just in time for your hair appointment but the stylist cant seem to get it just like the one in the picture you got off Pinterest…you are happy with the end result because you know you were just being fussy but of course you are late for your make-up appointment  (and now you look back and wonder why you didnt ask the stylist to come home like you did the make-up artist *duh*). But its okay, your make-up turned out perfect. So did your mum’s,  even though she thinks it’s  too much; but that’s mum for you.

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The "it's too much make-up" face

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Its time to get your dress on- wait! Where are the bridesmaids?? (i think I should write romance comedy at the rate I’m going with this post- but i promise, it was that dramatic). The brisldesmaids are late (no electricity at the salon perhaps?) but they are finally here to help the bride get ready- oh and they look fabulous thanks to the brides being dictatorial on their entire look.

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Through out the ‘organised chaos’, dad is calm, reading the newspapers, having already done the seating arrangementsfor the reception.

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Lawyer's scribble

The moment of truth……does the dress fit???? Yes! It does. It’s perfect (please note that this is not always the case for Zambian brides) but its got tooo many darn buttons!!

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At this point, you say forget these 101 buttons, I’m  late! And off you go, to you handsome groom with half your buttons undone.

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Service should have started at 10.00am

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Vendor Information
Hair: Yami’s Collection Arcades Mall
Make-up: Embeauti Hair and Makeup Studio
Wedding Dress: Custom-made, LaceMarry Etsy Shop (Yes, i bought my dress online! I couldn’t  find any plus-size wedding dresses that suited my shape in Lusaka)
Bride’s  Shoes: Ebay
Hair Band: Brass Lotus Etsy Shop
Mother-of-the-Bride’s Dress: Online
Mother-of-the-Bride’s Shoes: Ebay

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OOTD: Blue Skies and Tartan

It’s official Summer is here!

It’s  gotten so hot over the last couple of days and yesterday i really did not feel like getting out of the  house. All i wanted to do was sit on the couch, watch movies and eat my  second favorite summer treat – freezits! (Popular iced treat in Zambia). My all time favorite treat is cool watermelon.

So anyway, i have choir practice on Saturday afternoons so staying indoors was not an option. So what do you wear when you dont want to wear anything?

I decided to keep it simple with a plain white tee, stretchy tartan skirt and borrowed green sandals.

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God blessed me with a change in weather – i ended up enjoying a cool breeze and some drops of rain and it totally changed my mood. Definitely  worth an afternoon of praising Him.

Don’t you just love it when God surprises you?

Outfit Deets
Tee: Pep
Skirt: Identity (SA)
Sandals: borrowed from a friend who got them from her sister  (i know right)
Hair: Custom made wig by Yam’s Collections at Arcades Mall

LOTD: Bright, Bold & Beautiful

Its been a while since i posted up some my “outfits of the day” (OOTD) so here’s  a quick one.

I actually dreamt up this look…or maybe spent too much time on Pinterest before falling asleep  🙂 so i knew exactly what i wanted to wear today.

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Work Selfie

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Outfit Details
White  Mesh Top: Jet
Pink Jersey:  Mr Price
Purple Belt: Mr Price
Skirt: “Thrifted” (Fresh off the streets of Lusaka)
Yellow Pumps: Online

Oh and Hair by Nana using AfroKinky.

Be Bold, Be Beautiful.

Love,
Mrs. CurvyAfricanDiva

A Weekend in Lusaka

This Curvy African Diva had a busy weekend…

Saturday Morning: a day of pampering (Hair, Nails, Make-up) and photoshoot for my cousins Boutique/ Salon, Yami’s Collection (watch out for the ads out this weekend)
Saturday Afternoon: a friends Bridal Shower (a.k.a a Kitchen Party in Zambia)
Sunday Morning: Church (but of course) Sunday Afternoon: much needed sleep!!!
Sunday Evening: supporting a friend at a live performance of his album (J2, Till Dreams Do Us Part) at The Misty.

Phew! I could probably make it as a Real Housewife of Lusaka (cept I actually love my career…and I’m not married..yet!)… (note to self: I should actually start a series on my blog called Real Housewives of Lusaka featuring my married friends)

Here’s a snapshot of my weekend in pictures:

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Kitchen Party OOTD

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That guy ruined the shot!

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Sunday Evening, J2 unplugged

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Stepped outside just to show you my outfit

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My Date...but of course!

Stay fabulous!
Remember, Life is for living  John 10:10
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His and Hers Chitenge

To celebrate Zambia’s 49th year of Independence, my church this Sunday had an all round Zambian theme, from the Pastors, to the Ushers, to Hospitality and even Proclaim (our Praise and Worship team)  so boy was I excited! And why not? Any opportunity to rock an Afrochic Chitenge outfit is something worth smiling about but ad to that the opportunity to dress my future husband to be in a chitenge outfit, now that’s definitely worth a post.

I have been trying to get Matthew into a chitenge outfit for as long as I have been chitenge obsessed.  I have had several ties made for him, which he has never worn  (and has probably “misplaced”) but with him leading Praise and Worship on Sunday and having no choice but to lead by example, you best believe I took my opportunity and ran with it and got us matching outfits (corny I know….aaah the joys of being in love ♥♥♡♥♡)

Here’s our final look (nevermind his tortured look, I know he secretly loved it, its only cause it was hot and the material was extra waxxy…that’s my opinion and I’m sticking to it)

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Until next time my love hehehehehe 🙂

Love,
CurvyAfricanDiva and Partner

Flaunt It! (Respectfully)

I like to portray myself as a confident woman…well most times I am, but like any woman, learning to love my body and the skin I am is something I have struggled with for most of my “20-something” years on this earth.

Despite losing quite a bit of weight and seeing some positive changes in my body, there are still some parts of my body, which if given a choice, I would hide under a potato sack. In fact, for most of my high school days, I did (well not a sack but under baggy clothes).

This “problem area” is my  bum a.k.a booty and my thighs. I have accepted that no amount of squats will change this, “I got it from my momma” , thanks to her South African genes.

So instead of always putting myself down about it, I decided to try another tactic and embrace it, flaunt it (in a respectful, tasteful way), afterall, I am fearfully and wonderfully made, I am not a mistake and neither are you, don’t you forget it.

Praise Him for who and how He created you.

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The 2nd shortest dress I have ever worn

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That South African booty

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Definitely the shortest dress I have worn in public

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Ps: your confidence is what makes (or breaks) your outfit, no matter what kind of body you have.

Love,
CurvyAFRICANdiva

My Weekend in Outfits

I have had myself a fun, activity – packed weekend and thought I’d tell you all about it going by the outfits I put together. I don’t consider myself a fashion guru but every girl likes to dress up right?

So here is my weekend in outfits….

Friday night: Friend’s Birthday Celebrations
Venue: Dolphin Restaurant (Northmead, Lusaka) for Dinner and Karaoke
Outfit: Glam – casual

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Blue jeans, cream lace top, nude pumps and a gray envelope clutch.

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My dinner date

Saturday Night: A Friend’s Wedding Reception
Venue: ZAF Chamba Valley
Outfit: Semi – formal
Ps: I did attend the Marriage Blessing, but was occupied with taking photos of the Bride and Groom

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Lady in Red: red dress, belt, cluth and black heels

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My date

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Earings!

Sunday Morning: Church
Outfit: Afrochic

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Short Hair. Bright, bold yellow hoop earrings

Sunday Afternoon: Out ‘N About
Outfit: Casual

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Peach t-shirt and dotted tube skirt with matching flats

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His and Hers Casuals

What a fun weekend, let’s do it again.

Stay Blessed and fabulous.

Love,

Me 🙂